Questions About Your Past – to tell or not to tell?

I was recently asked a question from a female reader in a relationship via email about one’s past.  They asked me to give my point of view from a males perspective regarding if asked about your past in a relationship do you tell or not tell?  This is a tough question  and there isn’t a right or wrong answer.  Either way if your mate doesn’t like what you say or not say they can keep it pushing. It is a mutual respect thing.

My opinion is, I don’t think you have to in certain instances.  Your past is your past and a person is entitled to their own business, privacy, and comfort. I wouldn’t lie if asked but I would say something like, that question is not a fair question and I don’t feel comfortable answering it. etc.  Also never ask a question that you don’t want to know the answer too.  But as far as kids, marriage, divorce etc. things that will impact our relationship, would garner an honest answer and that should be reciprocated as well.

So there you have it.  Let me know what you think. I would love to hear other perspectives and I’m sure Wellness Soup readers will as well.

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